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“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”   – Aesop


Cooking Tips from a Challenged Cook

Don’t misunderstand.  I can cook, but I just really don’t want to be bothered with it.  They made microwaves and frozen meals for people like me.

Even so, I have learned some fairly simple ways to eat quickly with minimal effort.

1)  You can bump up the flavor of a jar of spaghetti sauce (I use Prego, but whichever you like), by adding a can of marinara sauce to it.  Only downside is that you then have a LOT of sauce.  If you have a family, or friends invited over, it’s not a problem.  If it is just you and one other person, you’ll be eating a lot of spaghetti.  I also use frozen meatballs to add to this.  I read somewhere that it was better not to mix the spaghetti and sauce together, so I store them separately and just add the sauce on top when I heat it in the microwave.  I store the meatballs in the sauce.

2)  Pork tenderloin.  Not the cheapest thing out there, but easy to fix.  I usually watch for sales and can get it for $3.50 or less/pound.  There are a lot of fancy ways to fix these, but I just rub it all over with seasoned meat tenderizer (more for the flavor than the tenderizing part) and stick it in the oven.  Then I can eat several meals, just changing what I eat with it (vegetables, salad, etc.).

3)  This one is more work-intensive upfront.  Fix taco meat according to the package instructions on the taco seasoning (usually it calls for 1 lb. of meat – I’ve used either ground beef or ground turkey).  Meanwhile, heat up some beans (I prefer black beans).  Shred some cheese (or you could buy it pre-shredded if you want, though that is usually more expensive).  Use burrito-size tortillas.  When the meat is done and the beans are hot, I zap the tortilla with cheese on it in the microwave for 20-30 seconds – just enough to take the chill off it and slightly melt the cheese.  Then add a dollop of meat, a dollop of beans and wrap into a burrito.  Afterwards, I tend to mix the meat and beans together (drain the beans) and store in the fridge.  That way, for subsequent meals, I just take out enough for a single burrito, heat it in the microwave and put it on the tortilla/cheese.  Usually I’ve shredded enough cheese initially to last through all the burritos.  So some work upfront, but then fairly simple after that.  I’m a minimalist so that’s all I put in my burritos, but you could add whatever else suits you.  I don’t care for quacamole or salsa, but I know many do.

And there’s a good start for you.  The only thing easier is if you can get someone else to do the cooking…


NOTE:  This post applies to genealogy and to writing.

On one of the genealogy blogs I follow, they mentioned timelines.  While this blog isn’t solely genealogy oriented, it does pretty much cover any subject that strikes my fancy.  Also, many of the skills/lessons learned in doing genealogy can be implemented when writing.

In my case, I use a desktop genealogy program called Personal Ancestral File (PAF).  It was discontinued some time ago, so there is no longer any tech support for it (other than a community of users sharing information), but as it still works well for my needs, I continue to use it.  There are many other genealogy programs out there, some for the desktop, some for mobile and some in the cloud; this was simply my preference.

I’ve been using PAF for a lot of years, and over time I’ve revised my recording methods.  At first, I put some information I found in the Notes section and some in the Source section.  The info in the Notes section was pretty much in the order that I found it, but I began to see that wasn’t ideal, so I started arranging it in rough chronological order (some things don’t fit neatly into order).  That allowed me to see the progression as I went along, and also I could readily see what I was missing.  Below, I’ve pasted a sample from the Notes of one person in my file.  (The *** replaces personal information, concealed for privacy sake.)

The first line is simply a note.  It gives me some idea of what I don’t acutally know and need to try to find out.

Putting entries as summaries of information, I know where I got information:  a death certificate, a census record, a city directory, etc.

Where I have put “[see image:  _____] it indicates that I have an image of the document on my computer, and tells me the name of the document if I need/want to go look at it again for some reason.

Near the beginning, you see “1850-1870”.  Sometimes you get differing information from different records, but I believe the family immigrated in the 1860s.  The census for 1850 through 1870 are available.  It is doubtful that they are on the 1850, and maybe not even the 1860, but I have noted that those are possible sources to check (if I find info to make me think they came to the US earlier than the 1860s). 

These notes walk through the life of Amelia/Emilie Wirth.  Any further information I find will be inserted in the proper location.


per *** Amelia Matthews was born 5 Nov 1835 in Posen, Poland or Germany, or Bromberg County, W. Prussia  (source is the knowledge of ***). 


parents names/bplaces for Clara Bertha Wirth were obtained from her death certificate


1880 United States Federal Census

Name:    Clara Wirth            [304 W. Division St]           [see image:  1880 C_IL Chicago Cook_ED 150.jpg]]

Household Members:          Name     Age

Carl Wirth              head, 55, b abt 1825 in Prussia, par b Prussia, Carriage Maker, sore throat

Emilie Wirth           wife, 45, b abt 1835 in Prussia, par b Prussia, Keeping House

Carl Wirth              son, 23, b abt 1857 in IL, par b Prussia, single, Tinsmith

Emilie Wirth           dau, 21, b abt 1859 in IL, par b Prussia, single, Domestic Servant

Louis Wirth            son, 15, b abt 1865 in IL, par b Prussia, Apprenticed to Painter

Anna Wirth            dau, 13, b abt 1867 in IL, par b Prussia, At School

Clara Wirth            dau, 11, b abt 1869 in IL, par b Prussia

Auguste Wirth       dau, 9, b abt 1871 in IL, par b Prussia

Louise Wirth          dau, 6, b abt 1874 in IL, par b Prussia

Source Citation: Year: 1880; Census Place: Chicago, Cook, Illinois; Roll: 196; Family History Film: 1254196; Page: 437C; ED: 150; Image: 0514.

1900 United States Federal Census

Name:    Fritz A Matthews                  [893 West North Ave]

Household Members:          Name     Age

Fritz A Matthews              head, 52, b Jan 1848 in Germany, par b Germany, Wd, immig-1862, Hardware Dealer

Emilie Worth                     sister, 63, b Nov 1836 in Germany, par b Germany, Wd, 5 kids/5 living, immig-1860, House Keeper

Henry Hoop                      roomer, 48

Source Citation: Year: 1900; Census Place: Chicago Ward 15, Cook, Illinois; Roll: T623_264; Page: 16A; ED: 470.

1910 United States Federal Census

Name:    Louise Fryar

Household Members:          Name     Age

Augusta Fryar       head, 39, b abt 1871 in IL, par b Germany, Wd, 2 kids/2 living, Dressmaker, At home, Rents home

Emily Worth          mother, 75, b abt 1835 in Germany, par b Germany, immig-1860, Wd, 6 kids/5 living

Louise Fryar          dau, 18, b abt 1892 in IL, f b Germany, m b IL, Single

Source Citation: Year: 1910; Census Place: Algonquin, McHenry, Illinois; Roll: T624_304; Page: 13B; ED: 0123; Image: 420; FHL Number: 1374317.

1920 United States Federal Census

Name:    Clara Gordon        [6013 Dorchester Ave]

Household Members:          Name     Age          [enum. 9 Jan 1920]

Clara Gordon                           head, 51, b abt 1869 in IL, par b Germany, Wd, Designer, Millinery, can read/write, rents home

Thomas Simons Gordon         son, 31, b abt 1889 in IL, f b PA, m b IL, Di, Accountant, Steel Pipe Manufactory

Amelia Wirth                            mother, 75, b abt 1845 in IL, par b Saxony (Ger), Wd, no occupation

Anna Matthews                        sister, 52, b abt 1868 in IL, par b Saxony (Ger), Wd, Trained Nurse, Hospital

Source Citation: Year: 1920;Census Place: Chicago Ward 7, Cook (Chicago), Illinois; Roll: T625_315; Page: 6B/53B; ED: 384; Image: 111

     on 1930 Census entry for her daughter Augusta, it indicates she was born in Posen

from newspaper clipping in *******’s Bible:   [paper and date unknown, clipping not labelled]

               Mrs. Emelia Matthews Wirth, for sixty years a resident of Chicago, died while visiting a daughter in Wichita, Kas.  Although 87 years old, almost totally blind, and a native of Germany, she did her bit towards helping America win the war by knitting for the soldiers.

Emelie E Wirth                      [see image of stone from FAG:  Ancestry_12.21.13.doc]

Birth:  1834

Death:  1921

Burial:  Old Mission Cemetery                           Wichita, Sedgwick County, Kansas, USA

Find A Grave Memorial# 34933982                  http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GRid=34933982

*** supplied full ddate and dplace, mdate and mplace; provided names of her parents

Now, this may be useful to anyone who is a genealogist who is wondering how to organize their information.  Know that it doesn’t have to be done in a genealogy program.  If I wanted, I could set up Word documents for each person and create a timeline for them there.  Indeed, on a couple of my direct line ancestors I have made more barebones timelines in a chart form.  Here is a portion of one of those:


DATE EVENT (Wright_Charles A_time)   PLACE   
15 Nov 1840


birth of wife Mary Elizabeth Van Wyck (adopted, was a Skinkle) in  Columbia Co., New York

dau of Henry H. Skinkle & _________

15 Apr 1841


birth Charles A. Wright in Newtown, Queens, New York

son of Julius C. Wright & Elizabeth Powell



census Mary E. Van Wyck or Skinkle poss with Van Wyck family still as a Skinkle in Columbia Co., NY




census Charles – age 9 w/parents:  Newtown, Queens, NY, pg 111




census Mary E. Van Wyck or Skinkle poss with Van Wyck family now as a Van Wyck in Columbia Co., NY


census Charles – age 18 w/parents:  Newtown, Queens, NY, pg 236




KS state census not found, but didn’t marry until 1866 so poss not in KS yet  


In this case, the red text indicates info for someone else (or something I haven’t found), but that has bearing on the individual.  It helps me track where people were at any given time so that I know where to look for records about them.

So, if you aren’t a genealogist, how can this help you?  The same principle applies for writing.  You can create an outline, or maybe a timeline, of your story.  It can help you see where the gaps are – where something is missing.  You can insert notes of where you have information saved (an image, a web address of site with useful info or details, etc.), so that you can readily refer back to that while filling in the gaps.  Sometimes, in my stories, I even insert some of the information I find in researching a subject, at approximately the point where I will need to use it.  (Usually, I save that information as a whole by itself, but then copy parts of it into my outline/timeline.  When I no longer need it in the story outline/timeline, I can delete it knowing that it is still readily available if I find I removed it too soon and need to check something else.)

In my own case, I sometimes create a story timeline so that I know what else is happening concurrently.  It helps me track the seasons, the weather, the locations, etc.  I can’t put someone outside enjoying a sunny swimming hole in the dead of winter.  If a woman is 8 months pregnant, it will have an effect on what activities she can pursue.  (Can you see Natasha Romanov/Black Widow doing the things she does while 8 months pregnant?  Not likely.)

No, I don’t always do timelines.  Sometimes I don’t need to, but they can be useful.  One more tool in our toolkit, whether for genealogy or writing or however else you can find to apply it.

Creatively Speaking

Uninspired Writer today posted a new blog entry about using creative hobbies to inspire our writing.

(see:  https://uninspiredwriters.com/2017/11/12/finding-inspiration-in-creative-hobbies/ )

Reading, the first thing on her list, is a big one for me. A well told story often will fill me with the urge to write something, anything. And even watching tv or a movie can do it.

But, oddly enough, so does working on genealogy. It teaches you to notice details, and how to research about places and things that are outside your experience. Those ancestors we seek each had their own story, and sometimes the details you pick up (names/dates/places) make you wonder what was going on – why did they go there and do that? What’s the story here?

I’ve also written stories based on something I saw at church or work or elsewhere in public, and many times a single picture will inspire something.

Her point is well made, though I would argue that inspiration can come from even the non-creative pursuits as well.  Travel isn’t particularly ‘creative’ as such, but seeing new places and exploring them (or finding new things in a familiar place) can also provide a spark.

Even just everyday habits, like washing dishes or cleaning the house, can be used.  Sometimes characters do those things, too.  How many times have you seen a movie, tv show or book with a scene in a restaurant?  In a store of some kind?  In a parking lot?  At a Christmas tree lot or in a pumpkin patch?

If your story is set in the here and now of wherever you live, the details you picked up while doing those things can be worked into a character doing them in a story.  And if your story is set on a distant planet or a non-existent world, the question becomes how do they do the everyday things that a person needs simply to exist?  We know what airport security is like in 2017 in Detroit, but what might it be like in 1763 Old Standard on Aldebaran?  (Okay, Aldebaran is a star and probably not inhabitable, but you get the idea.)

Uninspired Writer’s blog post is a good reminder that writing and “other stuff” don’t have to be entirely separate in our lives.  With the end-of-year holidays coming up (at least for the U.S. and to some degree in other countries), each of us may be in different places and situations than we encounter on a regular, daily basis.

Don’t let that inspiration and fodder for detail go to waste.

Button Button, Who’s Got the Button?

Blogger Siyana recently posted an article about increasing blog traffic/followers (http://www.siyanaonline.com/how-did-i-get-to-1000-subscribers/).  Though I mostly write this blog for my own amusement, and anyone else who is interested, I haven’t gone out of my way to try to get followers.  However, one item on her list struck me and made me wonder:  Have a follow button!

Did I have a Follow Button?  Being new to all this, I couldn’t be sure, but in checking it was pretty clear that I didn’t.  It took quite a bit of digging to figure out how to put one on my blog, but WhooHoo!  I did it!  My big bloggy accomplishment for the week!

Slowly but surely, I’ll figure out…some of this stuff.  No promises, though!

For those of you who ARE interested in increasing followership, you might want to check out her article for some basic ideas.  Good luck.

Let’s Get Real

Regardless of what you write, there must be an element of truth to it.  Even in fantasy or science fiction, you can’t simply write anything you want that involves humans without any regard to the facts of life.  For example, humans need oxygen to breathe.  They just do.  So plunking them down on a planet with an atmosphere devoid of oxygen and having them walk around on it without any sort of breathing apparatus providing oxygen simply is ridiculous.

And it is things like this that often trip up writers.  Stories that might otherwise be exceptional are undermined by the reader sitting back and skeptically considering the details.  “Sorry, I’m not buying it” they think, and when that happens, you’ve lost them.

In the Harry Potter stories, J. K. Rowling didn’t simply have a lot of humans underwater doing stuff without taking this into account.  Since hers is a world of magic, she provided several reasons for how they could function underwater without scuba gear.  Granted, all her ‘reasons’ were based in magic, but she did have a reason.  The reader could not honestly dispute what was or was not possible with the magic of her world, so few questioned that.

But in stories with worlds that are, or are very similar to, Earth, you have to acknowledge the rules – gravity, oxygen, and so forth.

In one story I read, set in Tolkien’s world of Middle-earth (which is essentially our world but in Medieval times), the writer had a couple kissing passionately.  Then she wanted the man to lift the woman (during the kiss) and the woman wrapped her legs around his waist.  So far, so good.  That could happen in our world, right?  But, wait – this ISN’T precisely our world.  What sort of clothes did women wear in Medieval times (and Tolkien’s world)?  Long dresses, to the floor.  Few wore pants of any sort.  Which means what?  That woman would have a devil of a time wrapping her legs around the guy without a whole lot of shifting of fabric in some way to free her legs.  Oops!  As a reader, you’re going along, wrapped up in the romantic scene and then you slam into that wall of reality.  “Wait, how is she managing that?”  The reader is yanked out of the moment trying to work out the inconsistency and the romance is spoiled.

Now, that isn’t an insurmountable obstacle, but it does need to slightly be addressed in some way.  Though not common, find a reason to put the woman in pants.  Build into the story the premise that many (or at least some) women ride astride their horses (not sidesaddle) and so have split skirts for riding; therefore this woman happens to be wearing such when she has the romantic encounter with the man.  Problem solved.

Other issues are a little trickier.  A recent romantic comedy was essentially a Jane Austen/While You Were Sleeping hybrid.  An amusing premise, but it entailed a man injured and unconscious for weeks.  He was put in a bed, completely unconscious, and all that seems to have happened in the way of care for him during that time was his being read to and having his brow wiped with a cool cloth.  Ummm, yeah, but what about food and water?  What about the potential for bedsores if his position never changes in all that time?  What about the expelling of bodily wastes?  Even if you don’t want to go into great detail about such things, you can’t simply ignore them.  Further, after not eating, drinking or moving, the man fully recovered his health and strength in a very short period once he became conscious, without any ill effect.  Not likely.  The biggest problem alluded to was that his injury/recovery might have impaired his returning to being a soldier, though it is never clear why that would be since he seems to make a full and complete physical recovery.  A few vague memory problems were all that resulted, and they were not so appreciable that they should have compromised his being a soldier.

Details like this are sometimes tedious to consider.  You just want to “get to the good stuff” in your writing, but you have to keep it somewhat grounded in reality.  In a completely fantasy world or on other planets, you have a little more leeway for creating animals and people who look and function differently than humans.  In fact, you might not include any humans at all, which allows far more rewriting of the rules.  But if humans show up, then human considerations must be made.  You can fudge some stuff, maybe allude to a solution without being specific, and the reader will give you a pass, but they won’t be so forgiving if you simply ignore anything you don’t want to bother with considering, researching or resolving.

Don’t let reality overcome your story.  Keep it real.


When I moved to California years ago, someone suggested I should write home and tell the family that I was at the beach and had been ‘discovered’.  Fame, fortune, the whole nine yards.

Only trouble with that is, I know my mother.  Her response would have been, “Discovered doing what?”

Announcing A Writer’s Path Writers Club: Creating Benefits For Writers

This may interest some of you who have not seen it. Ryan Lanz does a blog called A Writer’s Path, but is now going to be doing a subscription membership A Writer’s Path Writers Club. Even if you aren’t interested in the paid membership, you may find his blog articles of use in your writing endeavors.

A Writer's Path

I’m happy to announce our new initiative: A Writer’s Path Writers Club.

After looking at the writing market for years, I noticed a need for a Writers Club of this kind. Sure, there are Facebook groups, writers groups, etc., but there aren’t many associations that are more than just a gathering of writers.

I wanted to create a club where the sole purpose of it is to solve headaches for writers. Here are some of the headaches I’m looking to solve:

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The Age of Insanity

Through the course of my life, I’ve seen walls of prejudice, bigotry, and hatred crumble and fall.  It wasn’t a fast process, but gradually ideas and opinions changed, there was greater understanding and tolerance.  Neither was it a painless process, and many people suffered many indignities to bring about those changes, but they believed the effort was worth it.

The past few years, more and more, I’m seeing a regression to earlier intolerance and violence.  And, tragically, those whose responsibility it is to provide leadership in resisting such negative change are not only failing to step up, but often actively seem to incite it.

I don’t know what will come during the rest of my days on earth.  I hope reason returns, and quickly.  Until then, Thank You to those of you who refuse to fall prey to the insanity.

Thank You to those who look at the people around you and lend a helping hand when it is needed.

Thank You to those who commandeer pickup trucks to shuttle wounded to hospitals.

Thank You to those who give of their own time and money to send aid to an island in desperate straits, whose own government not only has failed them, but mocked them while doing so.

Thank You to those who waded in to help after the devastation of Texas, Florida and the numerous Caribbean islands that were unable to withstand nature’s assaults.

Thank You to those who hold doors for people, smile at the overworked person assisting you in a place of business, or offer encouragement and aid to a parent struggling with a child in meltdown.

Thank You for seeing pain and trying to relieve it as best you can.  Thank You for refusing to join the mindless masses who turn a blind eye or think ‘warm thoughts’ replaces a helping hand.

We are the family of mankind.  All families have squabbles, but this family needs to remember that despite the problems, we are all in this together.  We all need someone and we all have something worthwhile to give.

Thank You.