Men Aren’t the Only Ones Hung Up On ‘Looks’

I’ve been on vacation this week, and done quite a bit of writing on my WIP.  On the off chance some of you folks intend to write this holiday (US-based) weekend, rather than just relax and have a good time, I thought I should do a serious post about writing since the last three have been frivolous.


‘teams up with gorgeous Carter’

‘wind up seduced by handsome, arrogant’

‘when a handsome stranger’

Are men more prone to superficial attraction?  Who knows.  But it is clear that they are not the only ones.  Yet if you read story descriptions for books, both for adult and young adult females, the outward appearance adjectives are also there.  Just as plain Jane might like to be the heroine, adored by the hero, so too might plain Joe like to be admired and loved despite his lack of muscles and rugged, chiseled features.

Sure, men and women, boys and girls can enjoy beauty.  That’s unlikely to change.  But sometimes beauty is found in more than physical appearance.  Seeing a man tenderly holding and caring for a child.  Seeing a woman compassionately helping someone who is weak or infirm.  I think often you could line up a bunch of gorgeous men or women, and then turn away only to not particularly remember what any one of them specifically looked like.  Beauty alone did not make them remarkable or memorable.  But if in that lineup of beauty, the man or woman (plain or average as they come) is doing something (carrying groceries for an elderly neighbor, working a garden), you will tend to remember them with a smile when you turn away.  And you will remember them even when you can’t provide any details about the others.

There are various images around, with messages that are some form of “Be your own kind of beautiful”.  Yes, do that, but also look around for the beauty in others, even if it isn’t the most obvious kind that media usually touts as desirable.


I had written down the basis of this blog when I came upon another blogger, Laura Mae, who had written an article about Male Characters (and Female Characters) and the stereotypical tropes that plague them.  You may also want to look at that post:

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